Why not build family groups on social media, most specifically on Facebook, as there is a platform designed just for the purpose of creating groups? As shown below, there are many reasons for doing this. Speaking for myself, I have noticed a sharp decline in the size of families today and in the gathering together of extended families for special occasions and getting to know each other. Wouldn’t you like to find a family unit to be a real part of? What about someone who shared your love for gardening, saving memories, antiquing, painting, writing, fishing, hiking, etc? Sharing your passions is part of life–a very exciting part. It is also a great way to get new tips and to share yours.
That May be the Only Way to Find Them
There are a lot of people out there who don’t know enough about their family tree to know that they have family anywhere. A large number of single-parent families is one cause of this. Smaller family units is another. Divorce and deaths in a family can quickly diminish family size. Poor relationships: People have great difficulty getting along these days. There is an increasing amount of rudeness. Take the way we behave in traffic for instance. Would we drive differently if we believed that each car out there was being driven by a close family member? The use of drugs has had a huge impact on the loss of family because drug users
- are hard to get along with.
- are dying in increasing numbers.
- have difficulty with concentration and interpretation of events.
- experience poor memories.
- refuse to take responsibility for themselves.
- are self-promoters.
When we understand the connection between how we live and how long we live, it’s easier to make different choices. Instead of viewing the time we spend with friends and family as luxuries, we can see that these relationships are among the most powerful determinants of our well-being and survival. Dean Ornish
Build and Contribute to a Family Tree
You have seen the trees decorated with family members hanging from them with the names and critical information attached. How great it would be to see an apple, bird, flower, etc. with your name on it. You just need the right information and the right family. It is possible that the person who starts your family group will post access to a family tree for your contributions or will simply gather the information from you and put it where it belongs. If not, this is something you might consider doing and sharing with other family members. A great lesson for children would be for them to create their own family tree starting with themselves and going to their grandparents. This might be the spark they need to get interested in other family members.
Discover Your Commonalities and Share
Have you ever had something really terrific happen to you that you wanted to share and realized there was no one to share it with? Yes, that is sad, but it does happen. When you do join a family group, reach out to others by sharing those enjoyable hobbies, trips, or just new tips for living more abundantly. You have no idea what you might find out there–instant friendship with family members for one. Encourage your children to do the same, to be participants in life beyond those day-to-day, mundane activities we all participate in.
“Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible — the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.” » Virginia Satir
Plan Family Reunions
Establishing a family group on Facebook and Pinterest to plan a family reunion by reaching out to your relatives and asking them to do the same, getting ideas, forming committees to take care of things, and best of all, getting everyone excited about seeing each other on the designated date. These social media groups are the best way of staying in touch between reunions. The likelihood of children enjoying reunions can be increased if activities are organized and provided for them, such as setting up a net for volleyball, a table for games or drawing, etc.
Share Pictures and Stories About Your Family and Ancestors
Staying in touch is very important. I don’t mean to leave out those special milestones, such as births, deaths, religious celebrations, marriages, or graduations. That is a great way of adding to the family history. Who wouldn’t want to have a picture of their grandparents’ or great-grandparents’ wedding picture? That is so special, and I learned of some this past week which I hope to acquire copies of soon. Another thing to share would be ancestral names. Yes, what names are popular in the family and worth handing down to our own family members. Also, just where did your family come from? Our immigrant families came from everywhere to get here.
Learning about family illnesses is also important. That gives one the opportunity of avoiding having children who are most likely to have a life-threatening, congenital illness. Learning to check for this can lead to checks on a doctor’s office form for further investigation.
Where you went to school and what organizations you belonged to are important in finding common ground as are those organizations you belong to today. What you do for a living is important to some people. All of these things help tell the story of your life.
I cannot think of a better tool for bringing families together than belonging to a Facebook group. I am looking forward to joining one myself soon and learning about those things I have in common with my ancestors. Why not get out your own pictures of family gatherings and share them. Tell where and when they were taken and provide as many of the names of those in the picture as you can. If your family does not yet have a Facebook group, why not start one yourself.
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