Hi, my name is Tanya, and this is my “about me” page. I have been looking forward to blogging and hearing from others who share or disagree with my thoughts about aging issues. For example, are we being responsible for our own happiness? Should we care about the wrinkles on our face? What would we say to those who say God might disapprove of our not wanting to “let it be” or grow older with more grace? Why shouldn’t we call being over 55 the best years of our lives?
But I want to cover other questions as well: Should we travel alone? Is it too late to reconnect with family? Should we continue to work? How do we improve our health? And what do we mean by aging gracefully and successfully?
The older I get, the more determined I am to extend my enjoyment of life to the fullest that is within my ability. And that means I am open to everything about how others are spending their last trimester or if you are 50, your best half: traveling, living with those fears that hold us back, friendships and lack of, as friends die or move, losing a spouse by divorce or death, having or wanting to work, self-esteem, etc.
My mother lived to be 94, and after reviewing her life, I decided that what kept her alive and in good health until her last couple of years was always having a project to accomplish. In her 80’s she took a writing course and wrote a book. What or who is responsible for your having lived a long and happy life? It occurred to me that
- there must be many of us with questions and dilemmas about aging,
- those of us who are “getting on up there” as the cliche goes might be the forgotten segment of the population in many ways (the emphasis appears to be on baby boomers), and
- you seek various opinions and education about aging issues.
I, like you, have made many mistakes in my life and can’t tell you how often I wish I had made a different decision. I decided to get married and have children too early. I lacked the courage to get an early divorce despite being able to take care of myself and my children, but I eventually got one. I allowed too many people to mistreat me. Now, I let them know exactly how I feel about it and as soon as possible.
It is never too late to make the changes in your life that will lead to improvements resulting in a better and longer life, and as we move forward, I will with the help of excellent references off helpful suggestions. My wish is to provide you with enough information to motivate you to make things easier and to have a more productive life.
Decisions take courage, not only the courage needed to make a change, but the courage needed to escape those people in our lives who cause pain. Sometimes we convince ourselves that others are right about us, when in fact they have ulterior motives. Sometimes we think we deserve the treatment we get, when in fact we don’t. And sometimes, we are too reluctant to speak up for ourselves because we fear the repercussions. So, feel free to join me by accessing my blog posts and my pages through the menu at the top of the page.
I want to hear from you. Please offer your thoughts, whether they be fears, criticisms, opinions, or suggestions by using the Comments section below.